Whether you are already in a relationship or dating someone, it’s difficult to find out when a man doesn’t want you. Sometimes, it might just be that he doesn’t want a relationship with you but likes your company, and he keeps on showing love by hitting a pick up line or through others so that you stay in their life.
Your brain may think of all courses of action and despite that, you might not figure out whether he wants a committed relationship. That’s why it becomes very important to understand the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Signs He Doesn’t Want a Relationship With You
You need to look for signs he doesn’t want a relationship because it gives you more clarity about the relationship. Also, if you would keep pushing him for the relationship without understanding the signs, then he would uncomfortable. There might be signs he likes you but doesn’t want a relationship.
If you won’t understand those signs, then he would get even more distant from you. To help you with this, we have mentioned some common signs he doesn’t want a relationship.
He’s Distracted When You’re Together
Does he keep checking out his phone or doing some other stuff when you are with him? Or do you have to repeat what you say most of the time? If this happens often, then it clearly shows his disinterest. It’s a strong sign he doesn’t want to be with you and he’s not trying to have interaction with you.
This sign is pretty clear to understand and you should get the hint that he doesn’t have any interest in you. You just need to see whether he’s genuinely interested in hearing what you say. Of course, he might not pay as much attention sometimes, but if this happens very often then it’s pretty obvious he is not interested in you.
He Won’t Make Long-Term Plans
If you are interested in someone, you might already want to make a long-term relationship plan. You might want to introduce him to your friends and might have a plan for some exotic date in advance. If the guy is not interested in you, he would not be willing to join in your plan most of the time and may try giving different excuses. Although you can still fix the relationship.
Instead of planning things with you, he would try to find an escape from all the plans that you make. He would be pretty hesitant to go out with you much and you would rarely see him agreeing to join you. So, if you see he isn’t interested in making any plans and spending time with you then he most likely doesn’t want you.
He Doesn’t Introduce You to His Friends
If he wants to have a long-term relationship with you, then he would most likely introduce you to his friends. He would want you to get along with his friend’s group and would invite you to some exclusive friends’ party. He would put his effort into making sure that you like being around his friends’ group.
However, if he’s not interested in you, then he would like to keep you away from his friends’ group or anyone significant in his life. This shows that you are not of much importance to him and he wants to keep you away from his personal life.
He’s Unreliable
Trust is a big factor to have an emotional bonding. If you still do not trust him even after spending a lot of time with him then it’s one of the biggest signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you. If you can’t rely on him and can’t trust his commitment then it’s pretty clear, he is not serious about you.
You need to notice whether he commits to what he says and gives enough time to you. If he keeps procrastinating plans, is very vague about his whereabouts and if he keeps hiding things from you, he most likely doesn’t want a relationship with you. He would try his best to never let you down if he wants a relationship with you.
He Texts But Doesn’t Ask You Out
If he texts you and calls you often for long hours but still never asks you out despite your hints then it’s a warning sign he doesn’t want a relationship with you. It shows that he likes to be with you but is not looking for a relationship with you. So, you might notice that he enjoys talking with you but will always try to ignore or avoid any relationship talks with you.
It’s also possible that he just likes the attention and wants emotional support from you but is not interested in having a relationship. Even if he asks you for a date but doesn’t plan things well or just doesn’t commit to the date, then this shows that the date isn’t much important for him. You need to notice such behaviour and don’t expect any serious relationship with him.
He Doesn’t Introduce You To Friends Or Family
If he’s serious about having a healthy relationship with you, he would most likely introduce you to his close friends and family. Though it will happen only after dating for a while, he would slowly start introducing you to his parents and friends. He might also tell you about his friends and family to make you more familiar with them.
If he keeps ignoring you whenever you talk about his friends and family then it’s one of the most definite signs he doesn’t want a relationship. He isn’t serious about you if he is still keeping secrets with you even after dating you for a long time. 
He Won’t Define The Relationship
Keeping things vague even after dating for 3 to 6 months is a huge sign he doesn’t want a relationship with you. He might like your company but may not want to turn it into a relationship.
If he would want a serious relationship with you, he won’t keep you in dark about what he feels. He would tell you what he feels about you and how he wants the relationship to go forward. You need to notice his behaviour and how he reacts whenever you try to talk about being in a relationship with him.
He Won’t Make It Official
Making it official is basically telling everyone else in your life that you are in a committed relationship with someone. It takes time to make it official but if he’s still keeping things vague even after dating for a long time then he most likely is not interested in having a relationship with you.
You need to notice if he’s willing to tell others about you and whether he’s open to you about being committed to you. It would make it pretty clear if he expresses he is looking forward to having a romantic relationship with you.
He Cancels Frequently
While cancelling plans is pretty normal but the problem starts when it happens very often. If a guy is interested in having a relationship with you, he would be interested in making plans with you and would rarely cancel plans. You would be able to see his interest in going out and spending time with you as much as he can.
It’s not just about planning things, committing to the plan also matters. So, if a guy frequently cancels most of his plans with you, he most likely isn’t interested in having a relationship with you.
He’s Not Curious About You Or Your Life
Anyone who wants to be in a relationship with someone would be interested in knowing more about another person’s life. If the guy is interested in you, he would ask you questions about your daily life, family, and friends. He would be interested in getting an insight into your life so that he can understand you better and build a strong relationship with you.
If you notice that he rarely asks you anything close to your life then it’s a sign he doesn’t want a relationship with you. He would rarely remember big events in your life and would not be curious about how things are going in your life.
You’re not his priority
You will always be his priority if he wants to build a relationship with you. He would take out time, try to commit to the plans that you both would have made. He would make you feel that you matter to him and try to comfort you in your tough times. You will pretty easily be able to notice his importance for you.
If you feel he is neglecting you and isn’t giving you the time then it’s pretty clear that he’s not interested in having a relationship with you. He would keep ignoring you for most of the time and would not be very interested in knowing about your life.
He needs space
It’s pretty normal to have some personal space but if he keeps things very private from you for most of the time, then it is possible that he doesn’t want a relationship with you. It shows that he doesn’t want you to get into his life. He wants to keep you at a distance and doesn’t like to involve you in his personal life.
Yes, everyone needs their personal space but keeping most of the things secret from your partner isn’t a good sign. If he wants to have a serious relationship with you, he would not keep you in the dark. He may need his personal space but would not let that be a hindrance in the relationship. He would be pretty transparent about most of the things to avoid any misunderstanding.
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Final Thoughts
It’s very important to understand the sign of whether someone is interested in having a relationship with you without making any assumptions. Otherwise, it would be uncomfortable for both of you. You might feel emotionally unsatisfied because you haven’t been getting the same love and care from him. He can also feel frustrated if you keep pushing him for the relationship. So, it’s better to be more understanding and look for someone who has the same feeling for you as you have for him.
FAQs
Why would a guy text you if he’s not interested?
A guy might text you because he just likes the attention he’s getting from you. It’s also possible that he just needs emotional support.
What to do when he doesn’t want a relationship with you?
It’s better to leave him without making things complicated if he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Why do guys act so interested then pull away?
It’s because guys enjoy the attention they get from girls and sometimes after knowing more about you they realize they are not into you.